Do you still blog?
Somebody asked me that the other day, and I really had to think about the answer. I just said “sporadically”. In a melancholy kind of way. Because that’s how I feel about it. Kind of melancholy.
I was reading over some of my old posts, and some of them made me laugh out loud just remembering things that happened, things Aidan said, things about the family, good times, man! I remember when I would look forward to posting something, or when something would happen and I’d think “I definitely have to put that on the blog.” Most of all, I loved blogging about my family.
Honestly, there are certain of my family members that don’t care to be referenced on here, which kinda hurts my feelings, which kinda makes me have to think too hard about what to say and what not to say so as not to step on any toes, so it’s kinda no longer fun for me. I loved telling those stories about us, it’s always been how I show love. You know I’m not a hugger, so blogging was the way I shared my love. When that became “an issue” and people took offense, it took a bit of a toll on me.
And Aidan has gotten bigger now. How much soccer and school projects can one blog about? And I can no longer blog from work (bummer), and there’s Facebook, and there’s twitter, and there’s life, and by the time I sit down at night it’s just too late — like right now. And I’m not really doing anything new or exciting that I think you guys would want to hear about. I think I’ve become boring.
So, what does that leave me to say? Eh…I don’t know. I guess this is that classic crossroads. To blog or not to blog. That is, indeed, the question.
I used to blog anonymously for that very reason. When I was going through some things…for a period of about 3 and a half years, I vented and blogged about everything and everyone. I let that blog go….actually the company went down and so did my archives… BOOOOOO….Now I blog openly but my family doesn’t really read blogs like that so I’m good.
If I couldn’t blog about my life freely I don’t think i’d be interested either. I do hope you find a comfortable place so that you can continue blogging if that’s what you want to do.
I can definitely relate. Work demands took its toll on me. By the time I got home, I was (am) either still working or just happy to have some down time so that I can sit around being lazy doing whatever I want. I’ve toyed around with the idea of blogging (semi-regularly) again but my end thought is always the same. I just don’t wanna.
I enjoy reading your blog A LOT (the unsmartables are a wonderful source of comedy) but (and don’t take this the wrong way) its just a blog. If you want to stop. Stop. We’ll get over it.
I know how you feel, I go through times where I don’t have anything to blog about or just plain don’t want to blog. I hold back with a lot of things on my blog for family too. I have a lot going on that no one knows about, because there are people who would not appreciate my writing about it. Eventually, I’m sure that will change, but until then I respect their feelings.
I, of course, want you to continue blogging. I enjoy reading what you have to say and would be heartbroken if you were no longer writing here. But at the same time, if you did decide to stop, I would understand. I’d just hound you through email to keep in touch.
I think we have all been in the to-blog-or-not-to-blog arena. The answer can change as often as we change — uhm, nail polish. Keep in mind why you are blogging and who you are blogging for. Are you blogging for them, for us or for you?
I share plans, secrets, thoughts, dreams, aspirations, etc., etc. with Nerd Girl and with the blogosphere. I do not want the rest of my family IOR friends OR co-workers reading these thouhgts. When you decided to share your blog AND thoughts about the people in your world you relinquished some privacy, spontaneity and limited your stories.
Now you must decide how to proceed and still satisfy your need or desire to blog. I hope you stay and continue to share your world with all of us.
It should read: “I do not want the rest of my family OR friends OR co-workers reading these thouhgts.”
Please, I stopped blogging two years ago, locked my blog, and am clueless about the password. It was becoming a too difficult to remain anonymous, as comments would sometimes give me away. Go at your own pace, folks will continue to read no matter how frequently you post.
I am definitely more wary of what I’m saying these days, especially since my husband decided to share one of my posts on his FB page. I mean, he did it from a place of love and its not like I blog anon or anything but I don’t link my blog to FB for a reason, so I can have SOME separation. He upset me so bad I though about taking the blog private but I’m thinking I’m probably going to have to set up a new one..I’m just not there yet.