Filed under: Everyday Chatter
On Sunday, the NerdGirl family and us set out to feed the ducks. What an adventure.
Aidan had to be prepared. See how he’s carefully slicing the bread for the lucky ducklings? He was quite handy and particular with his slicing. I might have a surgeon on my hands.
Then it was on to the park. It took Lovegirl a minute to warm up to the idea of feeding the ducks, so I only snapped a picture of Aidan. For a picture of Lovegirl, just imagine two long legs, and one little face peeking out from behind them juuuust long enough to throw a piece of bread.
No, I don’t know why he insists on wearing his basketball uniform. Next, there was a little picnic going on at the park with the local bikers..or people with low-riding trucks with bass in them or somebody. So, we stole-a-way onto their brokedown jumping castle thingy, then we had to leave when random kid stranger girl with dusty feet tried to get the kids to play games for a “prize” of some melted down trailerpark candy.
So, we — meaning these three — played a friendly game of tag and went home. What? I can’t play tag and be the photog all at the same time. Sheesh!
Just in case you were wondering, NerdGirl was wayyy faster than the kids…she was letting them win.
Filed under: Fabulosity!
See? I do pay attention to you guys. This weekend I started building my makeup wardrobe, with your help. Here is what I got, in addition to some of Kelly’s Neutrogena mascara and TM’s Full Lash mascara. I made a deal with Leah the MAC lady to wear it 7 days in a row. Here’s day one. How’d I do?
(Oh, these are also a courtesy picture of my wig for Kelly. And these are also confirmation that my face is fat as hell. These have officially sent me back into the gym.)
This is going to take some getting used to.
Filed under: Incidentals
Aidan doesn’t think he has to say grace if he isn’t eating anything that’s going to make him strong.
The guy that broke into Tim’s house was kept in the Youth Court system. But the judge did tell him that if comes back for the sixth time, he’s going to be in big trouble! Tim was furious. I think that the next time he breaks into somebody’s crib, he should lose the ability to use one of his major body parts.
I’m starting to have the same scalp issues my mom has. Oh, no.
I love those Macy’s commercials with all the designers in them. Martha Stewart looks so motherly.
I had a fish taco yesterday for the first time ever. I’ll have one today for the second time ever.
1/3 of my online students apparently think that I’m an idiot. 1/3 of them think that I know wayyy more than I actually do. I like the 1/3 that don’t really care the best.
I’m done worrying about kids that aren’t my own. Ya’ll just do you.
I need to go visit my Grandma. I also need to go to Church.
Since Guiding Light went off, 2:00 just isn’t the same anymore.
A realtor is coming to look at my house this weekend. That’s a little frighteneing. Did I tell ya’ll that my house was coming apart — literally? Even if I weren’t moving, it still needs to be sold.
I never went to the gym. Maybe next week. NerdGirl’s motivational skills have been subpar lately. What? I need someone to blame it on….
What you got random?
Filed under: Everyday Chatter
This morning I was listening to Tom Joyner, and this lady called in. She says that her friend wore an Obama t-shirt to work, and was asked to go home and change. The friend went home, changed, and came back to work. Angry.
I personally happen to think that this is ridiculous, as I’m sure that many of you do. How in the world can a shirt depicting the President be offensive? As aggravating as it is to think about, that’s not my issue. The issue is something that was said to her: She has a case! So, now that Tom Joyner has declared that this lady has a case, she’ll probably make haste to the first attorney that she can find. However, she won’t believe them when they tell her the truth: There is no case here. No cause of action, no money to be had.
One of my pet peeves is people giving legal advice on the radio. Most of the time, most of the things that they say are correct. However, a large part of what they say isn’t. I was listening to Ricky Smiley and one of the great attorneys on there said that every state has a way to help men obtain visitation if they are paying child support. Um…no. They don’t. But when the person that heard that starts trying to find that way, they aren’t going to believe what anybody is telling them because, after all, it’s been confirmed by the lawyer on the radio.
I’m not saying that people on the radio don’t know what they’re talking about. What I’m saying is don’t believe it’s true because you heard it there, especially when it comes from a person who does not practice law in your state. And really, Tom Joyner is a great radio personality — but he’s no lawyer.
Filed under: Psonya & Tim
This is a hard post to write because I think it may offend some people. So, I just want to start off by saying don’t take it personally, I understand where you were coming from and there’s no need to clarify what you may or may not have said.
If you’ve been reading Pserendipity for a while, you might know that one of my least favorite questions is “When are you getting married?” As more and more people find out that our plan is to move when Tim gets orders, you must imagine that this is, more than likely, the first thing that I’m asked. Still, one of my least favorite questions.
Not many people have said “That’s great! Now Aidan can grow up in a home with both his mother and father and your family can finally be together! Wonderful!” People seem to have a need to know — first and foremost — whether they can support this decision and it seems as if the only way that they can is if “I” also have a plan to get married. *Sigh*
My automatic response when people ask me this is “Probably November.” Tim and I have never had a conversation about getting married in November. In all honesty, we’ll probably just wake up one day and decide its a good day to get married. And I probably won’t even mention it to anyone after that. However, a certain date and time tends to make people feel better and then they can smile again and we can go on with the conversation.
When I told one of my closest friends, she said “You know I can support whatever you do as long as you get married.” Hmmmm. Another of my friends said “I would never move…..” That’s really all I heard because I knew what was coming next and my brain is automatically programmed to shut down after those first three words. Honey, I’ve done a whole heap of things that people would never, and here I sit, unscathed.
Before I move on, I want to make it clear that I understand that there is a general concern and I’m hypersensitive about the issue. So, let me tell you why. Precisely because of the two comments above.
For the person that says to me “I would never” and “What if he”, my answer to that is in order for you to speak those words, you would have to make some general assumptions about Tim’s character that offend me. What if he what? Child, please. It’s been 5 years, he already would have. There is not a thread of anything in me that would have me to believe that the man I know would “get me” all the way “out there” then leave me and his child. Aside from that, there shouldn’t be a thread in your body that would even think that I don’t have a plan for that. Hello, have we met?
For the person that supports me as long as I do it “the right way”, how about just supporting me no matter what way I do it? Listen, this move isn’t something that has happened all willy nilly. When Tim received orders to Memphis, we knew that we would all be leaving together. That was a decision that we made together. This has been in the works for a very long time, although it may not seem so to anyone else.
Ugh. I hate feeling like I’m explaining something to someone or that I’m seeking approval, because that isn’t what this is about. I suppose what I’m saying is that if you’re generally concerned, your concern is appreciated, but rest assured that Tim and I have made the best decisions for Tim and I and Aidan and Nadia, and we’ll continue to make them together. If your concern is that I’m doing something that you personally don’t think is right, then what’s right for you and me ain’t the same thing.
Tim and I are well aware of what we need to do and what we want to do, but if it doesn’t match up with what you feel is appropriate, well…it just doesn’t. So, you should just remember one word: November. Hope it makes you feel better.
Filed under: Everyday Chatter
I’m no longer a size 16, but I’m headed back there. Today, I need to get into the gym. A while ago, I decided that I was going to do a spin/yoga combination. If I get up off my kiester, I can go to the gym every day at lunch. I can spin on Monday and Wednesday, and do yoga on Tuesday and Thursday. In addition to that, my tennis lessons should start back up by next week.
The problem? You all know what it is…I’m lazy. I can always find something else to do at lunch, and I never want to make the long journey to my car. But really, I need to do it. I have to do it. I have to do something.
Send me positive vibes, blogland. I must find a way to make my brain want to exercise. I must!!!
Filed under: Everyday Chatter
Hopefully, controversy in the Country is a fad and will be over soon.
For the past couple weeks, everything you see seems to be filled with it. TV, the radio, magazines — all of it. I’m sick of it. I do have strong opinions on some subject, and some things just set me off. I swear, I have been set off more this past month than ever. I was even livid watching Dr. Phil yesterday and I wanted to go through the TV on this radio DJ.
This is why Aidan and I had a “Woosah” day on Tuesday. The same morning that Tim asked me if I had gotten rid of my attitude, which I knew I had but I didn’t really know why. All this craziness takes a toll on your brain. So, I’ve decided that I’m just not going to do it anymore.
At Bible Study last week, the pastor said that what you hear determines your view on the world, how you act, what you think. This month has been a perfect example of that. He issued a challenge: only listen to positive things for 5 days and watch how your view of the world changes. Listen to gospel music instead of rap, go to sleep with the TV off instead of on Nightline (which tends to unnerve me sometimes), watch only things that are good, and see how you feel.
I’m sure that works, and I’m going to try to alter my surroundings a bit. Yep, I’m taking charge and changing my attitude. From now on, I’m all goodness and light. Well, for the first week, let’s just go for goodness. One step at a time.
Filed under: Everyday Chatter
I decided to stay home with Aidan and do absolutely nothing but things we wanted to do. I even threw out my envelope for the day. So, we woke up and watched TV on the couch along with Coco, then decided we should get out.
We went to Aidan’s other favorite, The Waffle House, then we moseyed on down to the movies to catch “Shorts.” Aside from scaring the daylights out of Aidan, the movie was blah. Ooh, there was only one other lady in the theater sitting wayy in the back and I had to keep one eye on her at all times. I kept thinking that at any moment, she’d come sit next to me and hold us hostage or something. What YOU call paranoia, I like to think of as “safety first.”
After our movie date, we parked the car across the street from the airport then we threw rocks and sat on the hood of the car and ate the rest of the popcorn while we watched planes take off and land.
Somehow or other, we ended up at some flea market kind of store, where I bought a wig. Don’t ask. Then we went to Target where I spent way too much money on 5 shirts, got Aidan a new Spiderman backpack, and looked at makeup while I read your comments. I didn’t get anything. Just standing there in the makeup aisle was a little overwhelming. Maybe it’ll take me a couple times to go look before I actually make a purchase. Can you imagine that? “Ma’am, may I help you with something?” “Um, no, I just came to stand here in the middle of the aisle until I feel comfortable. But thanks.”
Anyway, then we went home and made cookies, and I was in bed by 11. Go me! But then I called one of my line sisters and we laughed hysterically till midnight. No me!
Anyway, yesterday can be summed up with some very true words spoken by Ice Cube..”Today was a good day.”
Filed under: Everyday Chatter
Those of you who know me, and probably if you’ve ever seen a picture of me know that I don’t wear make up.
Well, a funny thing happened — two actually. One was that I was in Sally’s and for some reason I picked up some eyelashes and had the urge to buy them. The other is that I left the bag containing all the “makeup” I had at my mom’s house the last time I went. Truthfully, that resulted in a loss of about 3 tubes of lipgloss.
Well, I’ve decided that I want to give this makeup thing a go. Really, I want something to put under my eyes. I’m still not sure about the foundation thing. The thought of having something on my face all day like bothers me. And the thought of something being on my eyes makes me rub them. And I can’t really see myself reapplying anything.
This is where you guys come in. I need some recommendations! I would like something light that stays on all day. I have tried Mac, and I like the lipstick but, honestly, I’ve never worn anything other than lipstick or blush. And I guess I’ll need some kind of solution to remove the makeup, too.
Ugh. It’s way too much hassle being a girl. Any suggestions on what I should try? Break me in easy!
Filed under: Psonya & Tim
On Friday night, I was perusing through Facebook, and I landed on Tim’s cousins Facebook page. I was there to leave a message, then I see “R.T. and Timothy H. are now friends!” I think “ooh, she knows a Tim H., how about that?” Then I think “wait a minute…that’s MY Tim H.!” Oh.hell.no. Tim is really on Facebook? So I click his little blue name, and see that not only is he really on Facebook, he has about 20 friends. WHAT?
So I fired off this text:
Me: You friend your ex-wife on facebook and not me? And all these other people? WHAT THE HELL?
Him: Why you in my stuff?
Me: I wasn’t. I was in your cousin’s stuff. Loser. I can’t be in your stuff ’cause we aren’t friends. Double Loser.
Him: I got all my ex-girlfriends on there, too. Now what?
Me: What? So! I got all my ex-boyfriends on there too!
Him: Brenda says hi.
Me: I don’t wanna be your Facebook friend anyway. That’s doing too much.
Him: Good.
Me: Whatever. I’ll just get my Daddy to friend you.
Him: Stop playing.
Me: Oh, I’m not playing. Just wait and see.
Okay, for real. I really don’t want to be Tim’s Facebook friend. That’s kinda like going through his phone or something. But I was still put off that he didn’t even ask me! I mean, he mentioned to me that he was on Facebook but I didn’t believe it. That was a couple weeks ago, and I didn’t think anything else about it. But, still. He could’ve sent me a friend request. It hurt my feelings that he didn’t. It’s the thought that counts.
What about you? Are you Facebook friends with your significant other, or did he also friend his ex-wife and 20 people and not you and then not even mention again that he was on Facebook and now you have to exact revenge on his little Facebooking heart…. Okay, okay, I know.
